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Sexual problems common in women with breast cancer

2009-12-16T04:26:00.002-08:00

Health

Surveys have found that anywhere from a quarter to two-thirds of healthy women experience sexual problems. Given that such problems are a known side effect of breast cancer treatments that block hormone activity, researchers wanted to know how often women with breast cancer experienced them.

Dr. Shari B. Goldfarb of Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center (MSKCC) in New York and colleagues anonymously surveyed more than 500 women with breast cancer of any stage in outpatient clinic waiting areas at MSKCC's Breast Cancer Center and at two community centers.

Most of the women surveyed were being treated with chemotherapy, including hormone-based therapies such as tamoxifen. The disease had spread beyond the breasts in about a quarter of the women.

About three-quarters of the women - 76 percent -- had sexual problems, defined as a low score on a commonly used set of questions.

That rate is significantly higher than what is seen in healthy women, Goldfarb said.

Of women reporting sexual dysfunction, about four-fifths described their sexual symptoms as bothersome. About half of patients said that their symptoms were severely bothersome.

Typical symptoms were vaginal dryness or difficulty in becoming sexually aroused.

The study did not look at potential treatments for sexual problems such as lubricants, hormones, and counseling.

Tips on How to Talk to Your Internet-Savy Kids About Sex

2009-12-16T04:26:00.001-08:00

While the majority of 18- to 29-year-olds say they know how to prevent pregnancy, a recent Harvard University study found that not many of them are putting their knowledge into practice.

Dr. Richard Besser talks with young adults about contraception.

Dr. Richard Besser, ABC News senior health and medical editor, sat down with a group of young people to talk about their sexual habits and their views on contraception.

During the conversation some of the 20-something participants said it did not surprise them that most young adults believe pregnancy should be planned but not all of them are always using contraception, according to a recent study.

"Sex is glorified. Like in TV, movies and music videos. You watch 'Gossip Girl,' and you know they're not like 'Wait, let me put a condom on.' And they just have sex and it's so romantic and passionate," said one female participant.

Besser said research shows that parents are talking to their children about sex way too late.

The Harvard study found that more than 40 percent of adolescents had intercourse before talking to their parents about safe sex, birth control or STDs.

Nevada passes health regulation to allow for employment of male prostitutes

2009-12-16T04:23:00.000-08:00

State officials in Nevada have recently approved a method to test men for sexually transmitted diseases. As a result, brothels will be able to hire the state's first legal male prostitutes. Until this latest development, men could not be prostitutes because the state required cervical testing for STDs for prostitutes.

The STD testing protocol is crucial in the prostitution business. It has been largely effective - no licensed female prostitute has contracted HIV in the last 25 years. Prostitution has been legal in a couple of Nevada counties since 1971. These counties must abide by strict state health board regulations. However, contrary to popular belief, prostitution is not legal in Las Vegas or Reno.

Shady Lady Ranch owner Bobbi Davis said she may hire on the first male prostitutes in the next month or so. Davis believes that in these modern times, it is becoming more acceptable for women to legally buy sex. She predicts that being the first to offer male prostitutes may be a boon to her business in this economy (see full story here).

Regardless of whether one believes prostitution is a moral or appropriate choice, it is indisputable that the criminalization of it has caused more harm than good. Criminalizing it has not eradicated it, but has merely made it a more dangerous enterprise.

People will always get prostitutes, but when prostitution is illegal, women who are robbed or raped do not go to the police for fear of incarceration. STDs spread far more quickly, since there are no industry standards or quality control initiatives.

For all the government's talk of "creating" jobs, it sure has done a great job of preventing consenting adults from engaging in all kinds of voluntary employment. People who want to grow and sell marijuana to paying customers cannot. People who want to work as licensed, clean prostitutes cannot (except in a few select counties). The FDA has recently put tons of small-time tobacco companies out of business with its new, unjustified and completely corrupt ban on flavored cigarettes, in favor of cementing the power and presence of large companies like Phillip Morris.

There are many professions that are not particularly well-regarded. Most people do not long for the day that their child takes up the profession of janitorial work or garbage collecting. Most people think lawyers are despicable. Yet, none of these professions are banned.

What Women Really Think About Your Body

2009-11-29T07:08:00.000-08:00

Men, it may be tough abiding by the rules of the dating game, making initial contact and wooing women – but one thing to rejoice in is the fact that we are very forgiving when it comes to your physical characteristics! Plus -- most of you don't have to deal with cellulite!

Now, let us dispel myths about what is really important to us, as well as what the potential deal breakers could be when it comes to your appearance.

Myth: Women all want six-packs and bulging biceps
Reality: While most women can appreciate the Matthew McConaugheys and Brad Pitts of the world – when it comes to what they really want, they don't mind if their guys have little love handles or some extra thickness around the waistline. For some reason, our society is much more forgiving of spare tires than "muffin tops."

What is much more important to women is that their men are loving, complimentary and want to spend time with them. Most gals don't want a guy that is vainer than they are – or spends countless hours in the gym. Taking care of oneself is definitely a desirable trait – but keeping things in balance and knowing how to enjoy life is also very refreshing and a big plus.

Myth: Pedicures, waxing and tweezing are just for women!
Reality: Women aren't necessarily looking for a metrosexual, but basic physical maintenance and pride in ones appearance are very desirable. Guys -- don't be afraid to visit the nail salon and get a pedicure -- you might actually like it. Other common female gripes are, "He has a unibrow" or "I couldn't stop staring at the hair coming out of his nostrils!" There is definitely something to be said about basic physical upkeep – so invest in a hair trimmer and some nail clippers.

Myth: Long hair (like Fabio) is alluring and sexy
Reality: There are definitely exceptions out there – but for 85% of the male population over 25 – short hair is good hair! Men with ponytails and mullets should consider visiting the nearest barber shop, unless you are Willie Nelson, because it still works for him (like we said, there are exceptions). Another tip: the thinner your hair, the shorter it should be. Wearing your hair on the longish side when it is thinning only brings more attention to the fact that it is, in fact, thinning!

Another reality: On a societal level, men can breathe a sigh of relief when it comes to their bodies. The scrutiny that women face for not having the perfect shape or living up to standards deemed beautiful by the media is relentless. On a personal front – all most women want is a guy who takes pride in his appearance, is aware of personal hygiene, and takes good care to maintain a healthy physique for his overall wellbeing.

Of course, there are exceptions to all of these rules. Everyone has different preferences. If you fall outside of someone's set of ideals than that is not an indictment of you – it just means that particular person is not the right one for you.

Ladies, we want to hear from you! What is most important physically when it comes to your partner? Is it great teeth? A full head of hair? Does any of that really matter to you?

General Rules For Kissing

2009-11-29T07:05:00.000-08:00

1. Follow the leader. If your longtime client greets you with extended arms and leans in for a little peck, you do the same, unless you are uncomfortable. In this case, you should smile your most genuine smile, show your pearly white teeth and extend your hand for a friendly, yet professional shake. (Then start praying that you haven't offended the owner of your largest account.)

2. Don't kiss someone you have never met before. It's too much smooch, too fast.

3. If you're kissing someone that your spouse is uncomfortable with, cease and desist immediately.

4. Lip-to-lip contact is reserved for only you and your husband or wife.

5. Be a consistent kisser. If you greet someone with a kiss, don't forget to pucker up to say, "Good bye." Offering your hand for a handshake after a hello kiss sends a confusing message.

6. If you are a habitual air kisser, grazing the cheek of the other person with your own, refrain from making the "Moi, Moi" sound into the other person's ear.

7. If your kiss includes a hug, a few short taps on the back are appropriate, but avoid pounding the back of the other person as if you are burping a baby.

8. A quick sweep of cherry lip wax over dry and scaly lips is a gesture of goodwill.

9. Finally, the discreet use of toothpaste and a toothbrush or breath mints before a passionate kiss with your spouse is always welcome.

The Cultural Rules Of The Kiss

2009-11-29T07:00:00.000-08:00

1. The fabulous French seem to enjoy a kiss, more specifically two-once on each cheek-starting on the left.

2. Most Italians are warm and demonstrative and particularly enjoy bestowing their kisses on close friends and family.

3. The Germans are more reserved and considered not as kiss-friendly as the Italians. While they do not object to kissing their family and close friends, a handshake is the best option when you are unsure of how to proceed.

4. Spunky Spaniards like the two-kiss rule, often starting with the right cheek and moving left.

5. When greeting someone from the United Kingdom, a nod and handshake are the safest bet.

6. African tribes show homage to their leader by kissing the ground on which he or she has recently walked. (Hey guys, try this on your wife sometime and see what happens!)

7. Americans love to kiss, especially in the South. It is not unusual to greet a friend or colleague with whom we are comfortable, with a warm smile, extended arms and a big smooch to the cheek. Although, the protocol in business is to shake hands, it is not uncommon to turn clients and colleagues into friends and family, so the clearly defined line often becomes murky.

Honeymoon Packages

2009-11-25T09:54:00.001-08:00

Just choose on of the resorts or one safari boat and we will be organizing for you an unforgettable diving holiday.

You wish to dive only once per day, or twice or 3 times? Do you want unlimited diving during your stay? Do not worry we will be looking after all the details to keep your trip as pleasant as possible and sure it will be in your memories forever.

Visit Maldives, wake up with your spouse and see the happiness and love pouring out due to the unexpected natural beauty.
Start your life in such a romantic calm beautiful place to make your life calm beautiful and romantic.

Its your choice to choose a resort, we'll make arrangements to provide you with free Fruit basket, Bottle of champagne or bottle of wine free of charge for Honey mooners.

Halle Berry was attracted to abusive men

2009-11-25T09:52:00.000-08:00

Halle Berry

Oscar-winning beauty Halle Berry regularly witnessed her father attack her mother when she was growing up and says it affected her choice in partners.

She said: "My mother was a battered woman and that was my childhood for a good chunk of it.

"Early on in my life, I made choices, and I chose men that were abusive because that was what I knew growing up."

Berry underwent therapy

However, she underwent therapy and learned what to do if and when a relationship became violent.

The 43-year-old actress has now found happiness with model Gabriel Aubry, the father of her 19-month-old daughter Nahla.

Helps domestic abuse sufferers

She is also using her experiences to help others who have suffered domestic abuse and works closely with the Jenesse Center, a Los Angeles-based shelter which provides support for victims.

Halle – who was honoured by the centre four years ago for her humanitarian work - said: "I care, I really care about these women and children."

How to deal with toxic friends

2009-11-25T09:51:00.000-08:00

You have a friend. You have known each other for years, or maybe not long at all. You do things together, but you walk away feeling bad about yourself. Maybe this person is very critical, maybe they take advantage of you or maybe you feel as if you are verbally or mentally sparring every time you talk to this person.

If any of these describe one of your relationships then you just may have a toxic friend on your hands. They aren't easy to deal with, but it can be done. Try these tips for handling a toxic friend.

Know the Signs

The first thing that you need to do is recognize and acknowledge that the friendship is toxic. Note that the relationship or friendship itself may be toxic. Also realize that the person may be toxic to you, but not to other people. If you find yourself avoiding this person or you feel like you are the only one giving, then you probably are dealing with a toxic friend. Of course the biggest sign is if you walk away from that person feeling bad about yourself.

Take Ownership of the Relationship

When you continue your relationship with a toxic friend, you are enabling that person to continue to hurt you. You have to take ownership of the relationship, take responsibility and learn how to say no. YOU set the rules and decide when you want to see this friend or talk to them. And if you don't feel like talking to them, know that it is OK.

Set Clear Boundaries

Set boundaries that are good for YOU. You have to take good care of yourself. If this toxic friend makes you feel bad, then separate yourself from them. When you are together, confront him or her when they are mean to you or criticize you. If they ask for something, give yourself permission to say no if it isn't in your best interest.

Talk to Non-Toxic Friends

Talk with your friends who are not toxic. Sometimes, just getting a clear, unbiased perspective can help clear the muddy waters. They may be able to shed some light on why this person acts as they do, whether the relationship can be salvaged and how you can handle this toxic friend. At the very least, you will confirm that your suspicions and feelings are correct if they confirm that your friend is toxic.

Suggest Counseling

This can be a real hot button, so you may want to proceed with some caution. It could be, though, that your friend's toxicity stems from personal issues that can be resolved through counseling. Talk to your friend and tell them that you feel they are treating you badly.

Give clear examples and explain in very explicit terms so that there is no confusion. He or she will likely deny the mistreatment, so having some examples on hand will strengthen your case. They may take your advice, but be prepared for the relationship to end. However, it is better to put forth the effort to help your friend and the friendship than it is to just let the relationship go on as it is.

Know When to Pull the Plug

Sometimes a relationship just can't be saved. It is always difficult to end a friendship, but you have to do what is in your own best interest. But when a relationship is hurting you, it is necessary to terminate it in order to preserve your sanity, health and wellbeing.

Japnese Condoms

2009-11-25T09:50:00.001-08:00

Condoms have a long history in Japan, beginning with the earliest versions which were made from leather (!), tortoise shells (!!) or even horns (!!!)... is this where the expression "Are you horny?" came from?

Thankfully, condom technology has advanced to the point where 580 million condoms are sold each year in Japan and competition within the industry is, er, stiff. Indeed, Japan boasts more condoms used per person per year than any other country. To get ahead in the race for safe sex supremacy, Japanese consumers are being treated to innovative market thrusts that are by turns interesting, unusual and downright weird. So, leave that poor turtle alone and come with us (ahem), as we count down The Top 10 Weirdest Japanese Condoms!

10) Astrology Condoms, for those with Crystal Balls

Hey baby, what's your sign?
This cute condom package evokes traditional Japanese themes to create a modern day version of the Floating World. No telling if the actual condoms are styled to resemble the pair of piscine prophylactics on the package - or, for that matter, if they're fish-flavored. Hopefully not, on both counts. (condom via Bibi's Box )

9) Candy is Dandy, but Condoms are a Girl's Best Friend

"Have a break..." uh oh!
The obvious thing to do, then, is to combine the best attributes of both... but maybe it's best to get your legal department's OK before running off thousands of Kit Sack condoms. Sure, have a break... wait a minute, these are condoms! And no, I refuse to make any "Hershey Highway" references, so let's not even go there. (condom via boingboing )

8) Fe+Male Condoms, for the Gender-Ambivalent or the Iron-Poor

The first Unisex condom?
Okamoto condoms is one of Japan's leading brands, so you'd think they'd invest in an English-speaking copyeditor to proofread their new products. These Fe+Male condoms are a case in point... are they for males, females, Iron Man or what?? My wife's multivitamins have Fe+ on the bottle, so are these condoms iron-enriched as well? And if so, is there a problem with rusting? (condom via Condom Depot )

7) Designer Condoms by Radical Suzuki

Designer wrappers for wrappers
Is that a Suzuki in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me? In the bedroom or in your wallet, count on Tokyo Art Condoms by Radical Suzuki to make a good impression - not just a circular one. These look so good it seems a shame to rip them open. Not only are the packages appealing, the condoms themselves are attractively tinted and pleasingly flavored in peach, melon and plain. Plain? (condom via Compact Impact )

6) I thought Anime Otaku don't get Dates...

But on the off chance a fateful meeting of obsessed otaku-tachi or carnal cosplayers turns into something romantic, whip out your Gundam condoms! Available in 4 different package designs, each featuring a different "condomonster". Gundam condoms (try saying that six times quickly) show that when nerds eventually do it, they do it in style! (condom via Dannychoo )

5) Grace Condoms, for when Company comes...

Nothing says "Elegance" like latex
Advertisers have tried to give an upscale aura to condoms before, but are we really ready to see a box of them displayed alongside lamps, plants and other household brick-a-brack? Will the boss and his wife (or her hubby) be impressed with your good taste when they arrive for dinner & drinks? If not, could it lead to your dis-grace?